Wednesday, 20 March 2013

5 Things most people misjudge !

Einstein once said " Reality is an illusion, albeit a very persistent one " ! I would say " Reality is an illusion, albeit a very persistent one and different for different people ! What's real for you may not be real for me !!!

So here is the list of things that people generally think would work in particular situations, instead fail hopelessly :

1. Whining : Some people have a tendency to whine constantly, either about their life, their work or relationships !!!! Whenever they're sitting in a group they start with the sad stories !!!

What they think people are thinking -"Oh my God (I hate the shorter OMG) ! This person is so sad, what a poor fellow ! Needs our help "

What people are actually thinking -"Oh my God ! Here he goes again ! God save us ! What a crib !"

Lesson : Only YOU have the solution to your problems, all others are just spectators

2. Blaming : Nobody is perfect ! People do mistakes, some learn from them, some get over ! But nobody can make them realize ! So stop BLAMING !!!

What they think people they blame are thinking -"Oh no ! What have i done ! M a bad person. Whatever he/she is saying makes perfect sense ! Opened my eyes!"

What people are actually thinking -"C'mon as if........ ! this has become a habit now, cribbing constantly ! Loser !"

Lesson : People love you or hate you according to their mood & need, they'll realize what they did wrong (if it fits their definition of being wrong) only when they want to not when u deliver an eye opening speech ! So, stay back n if situation is too tough to handle jus walk away ! More worth !

3. Making your emotions a public spectacle: Updates that reveal your psychological state or to be more precise "Mental health"

What they think people they're targeting thinking-"Its a pity how emotional this person is, how sensitive and see he /she still thinks bout me/love me/hate me or whatever"

What people are actually thinking (after a big bout of laughter that literally make u fall from the couch-it actually happened with me when one of my loser frends chucked me from his frend's list)-
"Seriously????? I mean grow up"

Lesson : Focus on YOURSELF more ! you'll be more happy and satisfied ! do something constructive, something that adds value to your life rather than dwelling over losers !

4. Being the agony aunt: Some people (especially some loser boys who dnt have enough substance to impress girls resort to this theory) who play everybody's frend, like you can go to them with any problem and they'll be happy to help.

What they think people are thinking-"he/she cares bout me so much ! I can completely rely over him/her"

What people are actually thinking-"Give me a break u big mouth ! now u're an expert on advising or what"

Lesson : Maintain a distance ! All that these losers do is manipulate, keep your thoughts clear, focused and simple.

5. Gossiping : People who cannot resist talking bout people just for the sake of it.

What they think people are thinking-"Wow ! He/she is so much fun"

What people are actually thinking-"A headache ! What's this person's credibility? He/she is gossiping bout XYZ in front of me, what he/she might be talking about behind my back ? Hopeless"

Lesson : What we speak becomes our habit and it starts reflecting in our personality and outlook ! Keep it positive and all good things would start happening to you !

Thursday, 10 January 2013

Being Enlightened - The Easy Way !!!!

They say "Getting drunk gives u the exact feeling that u get when u get enlightened"!!!!

Then why fuss over being enlightened and getting Moksha ???? Why not get drunk and have all the fun ???

Why fuss over the circle of life and death ???? Why not live the beautiful life that u're so afraid to lose over and over again ????

Live ! Love ! Get hurt !! Get back up again !!! Have wonderful experiences !!! Do wat u want !!! Go travel the world !!!

Why want to give this all up while u still have chances to do wat exactly u want to do !!! Why do u want to get "Moksha" when u can experience how exactly it feels wen u get it wen u still have it ????

So, people next time u go to temples and pray for salvation jus remind urself - " Be good ! Do good !! Live ! Love ! Get hurt !! Get drunk !!! Hve the feeling cz u reallly dnt have to give up this wonderful life for a stupid feeling called "Getting Liberated" !!!

Live and be liberated !!! Stop worshipping stupid stones instead get drunk - more worth !!!!

P.S. Through above post it is not suggested that people should resort to drinking !!! It is jus used as an example to tell people that things about which people usually go bonkers are not so great after all !!! So live ur life and make it worth while u can !!!!

Friday, 25 May 2012

When We Have Nothing To Talk About !

Have u ever wondered just how many times we utter those two words - " Aur Sunao " ! Isn't it the heights of being vella (idle)????

Suppose you call somebody and after that brief conversation about each other's well being there's actually nothing to talk about, u still don't hang up ! Now when your mind is racing in a desperate attempt to find some words suddenly your mouth finds a solution and here comes the filler, our very own favorite two words - "Aur Sunao" !

Now this is the beginning of all misery ! How ??? 
  • Leads to unnecessary gossip sometimes even character assassination of some poor soul.
  • Leads to long phone calls which in turn robs you of the precious money that you would've otherwise spent on a nice stress busting outing, or a few more drops of petrol in present day scenario !
  • Leads to unnecessary arguments, mostly about a third person.
  • Most of all its a great source of time wastage.
Apart from creating that unnoticed irritation these two words can create a hell lot of damage than you can ever think of ! Suddenly your mind starts searching for some past events (if they are pleasant then its OK but if something bad comes up you're in for deep trouble) and having made some assumptions it prepares for an unproductive argument ! Those moments of silence in between can create a mix of emotions for both the caller and receiver !

So people it is always better to hang up than to indulge in unnecessary gossip if you don't have anything relevant to talk about ! Avoid the use of those two words - "Aur sunao" !

Monday, 19 September 2011

"The FAITH crisis"

Almost everyone, not almost but everyone, at some point of time go through the phase of "Faith crisis".

What is it?

A crisis of faith of course !

Faith in people or faith in yourself ! Following are the characteristic features of a person facing the "Faith crisis" :
  1. He/She starts with arguments upon anything or everything that is said (in a girl's case it is a common phenomenon but just imagine it to be more heightened).
  2. He/She would become a part time detective trying to solve the mysteries that don't even exist (they secretly think that world safety is in their hands).
  3. He/She suspects you upon anything and everything (Even if it is "Going to the loo", they'll ask "Kahan gaye the?")
  4. He/She starts feeling worthless (A girl would constantly repeat only one sentence "You don't love me anymore" and a guy would say "You don't listen to me anymore" or "You don't complete the chores on time, what's the matter")
  5. He/She takes the responsibility of "preserving world peace and love" upon their fragile shoulders.
  6. He/She constantly feel that they are being followed by some secret agent.
  7. He/She starts listening to "Hard rock" or in more classical cases "Pankaj udhas".
  8. Last but not the least he/she turns "Spiritual" (No offence to spiritualists, i am myself one, here i am referring to fake spiritualism)
People going through "The faith crisis" constantly live in denial, faking that everything is normal and everything is alright. Until they are woken by some self realizing discovery of their own (Oops ! "Self realizing" is always one's "own")

Why do people need to build faith in others anyway ???

Are they looking out for some shoulders to cry on when every situation is against them? Or are they trying to soothe themselves with the fact that people care (When they don't actually)?

I myself was in a "Faith crisis" once. Problem with being in the "faith crisis" is that you don't know when you enter it and when you exit it. Then i realized some very basic and simple facts :
  1. Do your "Faith crisis" involve a lack of faith in other people? If "yes", you are in a serious trouble and desperately need a self analysis !
  2. Why do you need to build faith anyway? Why not let the charity begin at home?
  3. People do what they have to and there's no stopping them. So, why even try and waste all the energy that you can utilize for yourself?
  4. People need space, but, how much and for how long totally depends on them.
  5. Just don't try to interfere with nature's way of dealing with things, flow with it.
  6. Everyone is an individual and they live for themselves more than for anybody else, you have to respect everyone's individuality.
  7. Let people (When i say "people" it includes you too) make their choices, its their life after all.
  8. Instead of doting on them dot on yourself for a change, you'll feel good.
  9. Only you are responsible for whatever happens to you, so don't try to find somebody to blame it upon.
  10. Love the moments of happiness and analyze the bad ones over and over again !
  11. Learn not to forget but forgive.
  12. Turn "Spiritual" ! It helps.
Like i said many times before life looks beautiful in all its colors, so cherish every phase of it (Even if it includes you "living in denial" and going through "The faith crisis")

P.S. Becoming a part-time detective doesn't literally mean turning into a part-time detective for real ! 

Friday, 16 September 2011

Touch the sky !

The other day i was feeling very sad and so i decided to take a walk in the park (I always go for a walk or jog when i am down). There were some kids playing around and taking swings and slides. I strolled about for sometime and feeling exhausted sat in a swing, slowly and unconsciously i started swinging.

After sometime while swinging i dropped my head backwards (as it was heavy with cloudy thoughts) and started to look up towards the sky. The stars had come up by then and every time i pushed the swing to and fro, the stars seemed closer. I was hypnotized and started to swing faster and with more force as if trying to get to the stars, they did come closer each time.

It was so exciting and mesmerizing that i lost track of time, all i wanted to do was touch the sky and grab the stars. It was a feeling that i never experienced in my entire life. An instant mood booster.

So, next time when you feel sad just take a trip to the stars !!!!

A taste to die for !

Have you ever tried "sweet with sweet", "hot with cold" and "sweet with sour" ???

Try it ! You'll love it ! I've been doing it since my chilhood !

Here are some :

1. Honey on bread / chapati
2. Tomato ketchup with rice
3. Egg white on buttered toast
4. Powdered jaggery sprinkled on kheer (Courtesy : Dadji)
5. Kheer with Sweet pooda (a parantha made up of sugar n flour) - Coutesy : Dadji
6. Gulab Jamun with ice-cream
7. Mango sliced in cubes with ice-cream

Sometimes the most awkward and weird combinations are the best !

P.S. Maggie and cold coffee are still my all time favourite !

Wednesday, 7 September 2011

People say !

People say a lot of things ! People say without thinking ! People say just like that ! People say things to impress people ! People say irrelevent things ! People say just for the sake of it ! People say coz they dont have anything to say ! People say ! People judge ! People form opinions !

But, do people ever think about what they say ? Do you?

"10:17 am; Wednesday; September 7, 2011 - A bomb blast outside Delhi HC : 11 dead, 76 injured"

What do people have to say about this?
Oh they have plenty to talk about !

RJ was right after all. People forget easily, They'll go home as usual, update their facebook status, watch their favourite TV serial / movie, party and go to sleep !

With the exception of a handful !

People just say ! When its time to ACT !